There have been so many events that I wish to write. Whatever happens on you, all are for a purpose - to further develop your character, so that you will know your Almighty the Creator much deeper. So you will learn to love Him more, and realize that you will sooner or later, be back in His realm.
Life Dedication to Your Other Half
I met a friend whom I've not met for about 10 years. Her then handsome, intellect, tall and healthy spouse is now not so well. Even though the spouse can still work, there are deteriorations in his physical fitness hence affecting his agility and overall well being. With small children longing for attention, home requiring daily cleaning and maintenance, handling everyday chores, preparing and deliver work commitment, life must have been a big challenge to my friend. I totally salute her commitment, dedication, hard work and perseverance in undergoing and managing her everyday life. What comes to mind is - will you be there when your spouse is no longer the same person he/she used to be?
For conservative Catholic, they cannot divorce their spouse, no matter whatever the circumstances will be. I used to joke this with a Philipino collegue who practise this - "Hey, till death do us part. You better be good to your wife". They can never be divorced. Scary isn't it? In Islam, even though it is the most hated Halal act, it is allowed. Now, for good and for bad, for rich and for poor, will you be there? Will I be there? The question keeps on playing. When a wife/husband dedicates their life to take care of her/his spouse, that is an event worth taking note. You can see it printed on the newspaper - a man quit his job to fully take care of his wife, in last week Berita Harian. It is amazing. Try to picture yourself in the situation, will you be there? Will I be there?
Redha Allah Melalui Ibu Bapa
Why do girls agree to get married outside Malaysia without their fathers as the "Wali"? When parents do not give permission to you to do things, they have 1000 reasons since they live longer than you. They have seen or they themselves have experienced the difficulties. They know your capability. They can almost foresee what is going to happen. Girl, when you elope and nikah at Narathiwat, without your parent's knowledge, you have successfully put your whole life at risk. You are totally at the mercy of your spouse. But then again, by asking you to get married without your parent's consent, you can know already what type of person this guy is. Why the hell do you agree? Maybe at the age of 22 - 25, not much must have happened to you. Someday you will know, through your own experience, that Redha Allah itu adalah melalui redha kedua ibu bapa anda. Bertaubatlah, dan minta ampun maaf segera dgn ibu mu, terutamanya. Caution - this happens to people surrounding me, not me ah. Nauzubillah.
Mom Can Never Be Selfish
The good traits of my mother is she will always put her children, or grandchilren's needs above hers. She is one unselfish soul. This trait however, I cannot take for granted that all mothers are the same. Being a mother myself, I am also learning to practice this good trait. You think it's easy? Let say in a warm sunny day in Terengganu, near a beach, at the warung, you order 2 iced milo - 1 for you and 1 for your kid. When the waiter comes, only 1 iced milo. Do you take it or do you pass it to your kid? Who drink it first? It may sound minor, but these very small act develops your character as a mother - to be selfish or to be selfless? Ok another instance. Say the warung is so crowded, there is no seat. Suddenly your husband finds a place to sit, but lack of 1 chair. Do you then find the chair for your kid to sit first, or you ask the kid "Find your own chair kakak/abang/adik"? Do you know that how you treat your children, they will grow up and be a person exactly as how you treat them? From there they will observe, and think that this is the most acceptable way of doing things.
When my mother was sick, alhamdullillah, a few of us gladly willing to take care of her. We feel that she has done marvellous things, which your life can never repay what she has done. Now, what do you think will happen to the selfish mom? She will cry and tell people - "Tak guna semua anak aku, tak nak jaga aku bila aku sakit." Pernahkah dia terfikir, bagaimana dia mendidik anaknya dari dewasa hingga terkini? Had she been very selfish in the past? Tepuk dada tanya iman. Semoga Allah menjadikan aku ibu yg baik dan solehah, supaya aku boleh mendidik anak2 ku dgn baik, supaya mereka menghargai jasa ibu bapa dan dapat menjagaku di waktu susah. Dapat mendoakan aku tatkala aku tiada kelak. Amin.
Make A Difference
In our life, try to make a difference. We cannot change the world, but we can change our surroundings. At least we can try to make a change to a soul. Opportunites are everywhere. Do not think of the rewards, just know that 1 thing you give, or 1 act that you do, insya Allah will be repaid in manifolds. You don't have to ask for it, it will come to you, in many forms. At the end of the day, people will remember you up to the extent of how much you touch their life. That's all. This morning, I bump into a person, wajahnya persis Allahyarham sahabatku Seri Tambak. Hanya Al-Fatihah yg mampu aku sedekahkan. Begitu banyak nasihat, tips dan pengajaran yg sempat beliau kongsikan bersama. It is always in my heart. We are as good as the legacy we leave behind. Do good, don't be selfish, take care of yourself, your spouse, your children, family members, insya Allah, there will always be souls who will take care of you.
