2008 Memoirs – The Year of Major Turning Point

Family
Added an heir - birth of Eusoff Ikbar Eka on 27th March 2008 at Hospital Penawar, Pasir Gudang, Johor. Beginning of more days staying in Mutiara Rini's house to foster closer family ties.

Career
Moved slightly ahead. Works become more interesting when you are to lead and have the freedom to decide on your own action items. Was given chance to participate in 3 team buildings, and yet I only see improvements in camaraderie for a short while after the session. This is definitely not the answer to enhance team work. Pay jump? Rezeki terpijak dari Allah. Alhamdulillah.

Side Income
Progressed at slower pace. Not as hectic since everyone was on “wait and see” game. Had to push more for Dollar Cost Averaging concept.

Friends
Distinguished friends. Good friends are those around you who would stick through thick and thin. Select them wisely and they will not disappoint you in time of need. “A friend in need is a friend indeed”. They may not necessarily be your physical friends. Cyber friends are even superb.

Connections
Got evolvement in connection. Never underestimate the power of the cyber world. Tons of information is available on everything. If you think you have a problem and no where to turn to, try to “google” it and find the right community – people who are experiencing the same problem as you, or even worst. Learn from the experience of one another. The advice is free, and you can remain anonymous.

Love
Learned about the invaluable lesson in love. Ultimate love must be to Allah, not to people or things. Sounds so cliché but one lesson worth noting by going through one very strenuous experience. Thank God I could maintain my sanity and health.


Sacrifice
Experienced the true meaning of sacrifice. It is difficult to put interest of others above your own, but at certain critical time, it is paramount that you sacrifice your id, ego and superego to give way for the people that you love.

Destiny
Understood the theory of destiny. Sometimes you think that your destiny is already fixed and pre-determined – when, where, how, with who. When something hit, then only you realize that you have to work hard to make that destiny real. Never ever take things and people for granted.

Value
Learned to forgive and forget. “Belajar untuk menerima dan kemudian, melepaskan”. Easier said than done. Very challenging indeed. All that are around us, are just lent to us by Allah, can be taken anytime. Sink it deep.

Doa
Pray and always pray to complement all efforts. Don’t forget to pray whenever and wherever – in the car while driving, in the kitchen while cooking, in the office while typing, etc. Purify the heart for a better chance that the prayer be answered.

Parable of a Romantic Getaway

27th Dec. 2008 marks my 6th wedding anniversary. Since I do not know what will happen in years to come, I had planned to go someplace where both Mr. X and I had never been and off we went to discover an island and a highland. I felt that for this time, I needed it to be special time-off, just us, with no kids to mess around.

A visit to the island was also to kill one bird with a stone. My ex-boss had called me up and offered me and Mr. X to join him in his new workplace last month. I thought that the offer was quite "timely" and most welcomed, since both of us are really dying to start a new life adventure together. But a caveat there, the job offers really have better be damn worth it to make us move all the way to northern part of peninsular.

Chronicles of a passage:

25th Dec. 2008 (Thursday)

• Departed from JB at 10am. Took the PLUS expressway right through Bidor exit.
• Passed by Teluk Intan (thought to stop by the tilted Clock Tower (Pisa Tower of Malaysia) but was no where to be seen. Then found a newly opened McDonald, had lunch there).
• Arrived in Lumut at 4pm, called Mr. S who later fetched us from the car park at the Jetty Terminal and straight brought us to the new workplace. Had a tour of the place, and later to my surprise, he showed us a presentation slides which he had prepared for a customer the day before (really felt like a VIP). It was such an honor. He was hoping, I could tell, for us to join them. Well, it all depends. Finally he sent us back to the jetty to catch the 6.15 ferry to the Pangkor Island.
• Arrived in Pangkor at 7pm, checked in at Pangkor Holiday Resort.

26th Dec. 2008 (Friday)

• Decided to rent a motorbike to round discover the island. Stopped by at Pantai Teluk Nipah, saw a friendly boat operator who offered to take us to round a few nearby islands and do snorkeling at Pulau Giam.
• Mr. X really was enjoying himself snorkeling while I, had a few dips and decided that snorkeling and all water activities are just not for me. Water phobic still. Hence, I tried to catch fish at the edge of the water. The crystal clear water manifested a few types of fish and many other sea creatures.
• Went back to hotel around 2pm and continued discovery of the island later in the afternoon.
• Time to buy stuff for people - ikan kering, sotong kering, udang kering, sate ikan, etc.

27th Dec. 2008 (Saturday)

• Checked out around 9am, took the 9.45 ferry back to Lumut.
• Decided that a stop in Cameron Highland would not be such a bad idea after all. Mr. X last visited this highland when he was in standard 5 (1986), while me was back in Form 4 (1991).
• Took the Jelapang entrance and exit at Simpang Pulai. Overshot road to Ipoh, luckily a friend who happens to live there advised us to turn and find the right junction opposite Jakel. Road signages in Malaysia really need to improve. A lot!
• Swift journey up, up till we reached Kg Raja, the traffic was at bumper to bumper crawl for 2 freaking hours! Apparently the Brinchang town was a bottleneck, coupled with many tourist stops for fresh veges and souvenirs along the way. (Mr. X suggested that a station has to be created, so all buses should stop there. Then people can only go up by trucks - not a bad idea eh). Roads in Cameron are getting narrower but the number of visitors is getting larger.
• Reached Brinchang town around 6pm, tried to find hotels/motels from the most expensive to the most cheapest, none had a space for us. Tried at Tanah Rata, same story. It was already 7++pm.
• Decided to sleep in the car. This was the most exciting part of it all. The last time I slept in the car was during student days traveling around the US. Same with Mr. X. Talk about an adventure. Thanks to the MPV Odyssey, we had ample space.

28th Dec. 2008 (Sunday)

• Woke up early to pray and then catch the sunrise and most exciting, the fog creation when we exhaled. Huh...how we missed those days when it was really cool...went to Boh plantation but it was yet to open, so just snapped pix.
• Stopped by a row of stalls to get stuff for people - fresh veges and fruits.
• Stopped by another tea plantation - Cameron Valley. Managed to take pix with a few workers plucking tea leaves as background. Had a tea sipping episode overseeing the spectacular view of the tea plantation. Just nice.
• Final stop at a Strawberry Farm. Self plucking strawberries was a dream for Mr. X all along the traffic jam journey the day before. RM25 for half kg, RM40 for 1kg of self-plucked strawberries. Mr. X also couldn't resist to buy 3 cactuses for the kids, one each.
• Drove down also along the Simpang Pulai - as advised by a friend, this new hiway is much better than the Tapah road. While descending, I slowly developed a headache, and about 10 minutes to reach the flat land, I threw up. Hmmm...this is also another moment worth noting. I had never vomitted in the car for a long time due to road sickness. Apparently the journey down Cameron Highland managed to break the record.
• Stopped by at Rawang for a break, went home. Reached JB at 9pm.

View of fishermen's village along the coastal road of Pulau Pangkor. Pix taken from the ferry.

Candle light dinner at Tanah Rata (blackout la...). Waited 1 hour to be served. Mr. X said they deserve to only live on the mountains, and don't get down.

Medium tea serving. 4 cups for 2 people - one for Teh O, one for Teh Susu each.

Self-plucked strwberries. Nothing gives more contentment than the pleasure to pick and pluck to your own liking.

An adventure - yes.
A romantic getaway - maybe yes.
Repeat the whole thing - definite for me, dunno for Mr. X. But I'm sure he has fun time too.

Q:29:20 - "Travel through the earth and see how Allah did originate creation; so will Allah produce a later creation: for Allah has power over all things".

Q:30:42 - "Travel through the earth and see what was the end of those before (you): Most of them worshipped others besides Allah."

Q:16:36 - "And certainly We raised in every nation a messenger saying: Serve Allah and shun the Shaitan. So there were some of them whom Allah guided and there were others against whom error was due; therefore travel in the land, then see what was the end of the rejecters".

Sometimes...

Sometimes, we do not realize that what we have is already the best of what God has bestowed upon us.
Sometimes, we refuse to acknowledge that what we have is the best there is.
Sometimes, we wish that our loved one is someone else.
Sometimes, we wish that we could turn back time so that we can be with another person.
Sometimes, we forget the deeds of others just to satisfy our own desire.
Sometimes, we always think about someone whom we cannot be with at the expense of the one who loves us the most.
Sometimes, we question why God does not grant what we wish for.
Sometimes, we hurt the people around us without realizing.
Sometimes, we do not care about the feelings of others because our feelings are more important.
Sometimes, we refuse to accept the written fate from God because we think we know ourselves better.
Sometimes, we decline to improve things since we think it will not change anything.
Sometimes, all we care about is ourselves, at the expense of our loved ones.

For all that matter,

"Jika kamu bersyukur atas segala nikmat, akan Aku lipatgandakan nikmat ke atas mu,
Jika kamu kufur akan nikmat yang Aku berikan, ketahuilah sesungguhnya azab Aku adalah sangat berat".

Giving Back

I read in the news last week that the Deputy Higher Education Minister suggested for our local universities grads to appreciate their alma mater by giving more support. I did not read the story in detail, but for all that matters, it takes two to tango.

If the universities wish to have more support, be it in terms of financial or social support, then they must plan the program well and have it promoted and advertised widely to the alumni. I am sure that a lot of local universities alumni would like to contribute but perhaps do not know how, or simply it will be an intricate task. People are running out of time these days. If we want to give, we want it to be in the most simplest way possible.

Take for instance what my alma mater does. Almost every year, I would receive this type of letters far afield from Bloomington, Indiana, USA, asking for contribution. See how simple they have made it. Just by credit card, anywhere in the world.

To keep in touch with all alumni, sometimes I'd receive the ballot paper for polls to select the new Alumni President and committee or newsletters of what have been happening in that year at the university e.g. once someone from my college was awarded the Nobel prize. This has forced me indirectly to be in touch with the university.

I hope our universities can emulate this kind of "human touch" so that the alumni can feel more connected with their alma mater. Perhaps I should take a post grad class from a local u and compare the practice myself.

Tunaround and Transform - A Malaysian Success Story

I would really like to recommend for you to read below interview done by a management consultant firm named Mckinsey with CEO of Malaysia Airlines - Idris Jala, as published by Mckinsey Quarterly online magazine.

http://www.mckinseyquarterly.com/Turning_around_a_struggling_airline_An_interview_with_the_CEO_of_Malaysia_Airlines_2238

Idris should really write a book on his phenomenal success to turnaround and transform our national carrier. To give you a snippet of what I like:

First, when he did the turnaround process for 2 years, he told the people involve that if you don't succeed, out you go. Wonder if my company had the gut to do the same. When people are wary of the very thing that bring rice to the table of their family, then only they'll do things which they always thought is seemingly impossible, or couldn't care less about.

Second, in the transformation program, people are given new vocabulary and new responsibilities. No need to employ more staff or any foreign intervention. The strength of any transformation journey lies with the people within the organization. We just need to find ways to extract them out. In MAS, staff are put in "labs", where 10-15 people are grouped together to brainstorm with expected output called "big results fast". We try to do this here, but we are not yet successful. A lot of things we can learn from MAS's experience.

Third, Idris said the leader of any organization must cut the clearing in a very dense tropical jungle, so that people can find the pathway. Then only they can see the sky and get direct sunlight. He's talking about leader creating hope for the people. He started the believe and hope first, then only the people follow.

Fourth, he talked about divine intervention. Instead of talking about it bluntly to the management consultant who seemingly failed to acknowledge that some extra power is needed to ensure success, he delicately explained that we can only control a small portion of success, major component of it is indeed determined by "divine intervention". After all the hard work, don't forget to pray (berdoa).

Last but never the least, he acknowleged the role of his wife in this success. When he was instructed to move to MAS, he felt that he needed to conquer the fear of failure. And guess who he turned to for some calming effect? The dear wife. Well, they say that behind the success of a man, there is always a woman. And behind the failure of a man, I bet there are countless women!

That's it for now folks. I feel that lately I've not written something intellectually stimulating. Hope this one will make your head spinning for that intellectual dose.

It's Officially Over

And of His signs is this:
"He created for you mates from yourself that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He ordained between you love and mercy. Lo, therein indeed are portents for folk who reflect". (Quran 30:21)

"When the servant of Allah marries, he has fulfilled half the responsibilities laid on him by the faith; so let him be God conscious with respect to the other half". (Mishkat)

"'The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behavior; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives" (From Mishkat al-Masabih, No. 0278(R) Transmitted by Tirmidhi).

Abu Hurairah related that the Prophet Muhammad said:
“Men choose women for four reasons: for their money, for their rank, for their beauty and for their religion, but marry one who is religious and you will succeed” (Bukhari, Muslim).This of course, applies to women as well.

"Women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity " (Quran 24:26).

Lo and behold. Last month I wrote about this tragic case of a couple under the title "It's Almost Over". And yesterday, it's officially over. The knot was finally entangled.



Somehow this man is sooo good with words. Derita = Misery. Who's misery is it? Let's see what is going to happen to him soon. Not that I pray for his doomsdays, but verily for every deed that you do, you will get your reward. Same applies otherwise.

Like I said before, couples these days normally would focus more on preparation for the Big Day that they put on hold or totally forget to equip themselves phychologically and spiritually to undertake the journey of a matrimony. One very typical example - the so called "Wedding of the Year", this is a snippet (oh, by the way, this is just a tip of the iceberg created by the media for this celeb's Big Day):

And you think by attending the Marriage Course for 16 hours in 2 days is sufficient? Let me ask you what can you remember when you attending it last time (for you who've gone thru it)? For all future couples, I'd really like to propose for you to read more books on marriage in Islam, its concept, qualities of a good husband/wife, doa-doa, etc. Examples of books are a lot in the market, like the best seller "Cakar Harimau" written by Ustazah Nor Baayah. A very good buy. Hey, tax claimable also.

Besides educating oneself on its preparation, also learn about how to manage it while you are in it, and also if you want to be out of it. Then only it is complete. Pre - during - post. Here are some instances of issues faced when the covenant reached a dead end:

Nafkah - If you divorce your wife, you not only have to pay for her expenses (nafkah) during edah (3 months solace period), but you have to pay for your kids' expenses until they can sustain themselves (when they start working). You can run, but you can't hide. Smart wives will chase you even if you squeeze yourself into the worm's pit hole.

Harta Sepencarian (Co-owned Assets) - whatever accumulated by the husband after marriage, are automatically co-owned by the wife. But whatever accumulated by the wife after marriage, the husband has to prove that he has the right to co-own the same. If you kill your wife, chances are you will find it a very grueling and ardous attempt to claim her assets.

Well, there are indeed so many lessons to learn in this covenant called "marriage". Allah has prescribed a complete guide for couples to flourish and be successful in it, it is a matter of how every single one of us wants to search for it and benefit from it.

"Sesungguhnya ada perbezaan antara orang yang berilmu dengan yang lain-lain. Allah akan mempertingkatkan orang berilmu dengan beberapa tingkatan darjat...".

Work Your B*** Out!

Yesterday lunch, I flipped Berita Harian newspaper and this particular Letter to the Editor really infuriated me. The gist of his predicament and hence, proposal is:

1. He wishes to get married, but has not enough money.
2. He plans to borrow from bank, but thought that the interest maybe high.
3. Out of nowhere, somebody must have poked his cereblum/cerebrum somewhere and voila - why not use the EPF money?
4. He writes to the newspaper to gain some support, I guess.

With quite unstable frame of mind (yeah, yesterday was really a bad day for me at work), I straight away drafted a refute letter to squash this dim-witted proposal and emailed it to the editor. It got published today, with some editing.

The quintessence of my rebuttal :

1. EPF is the only source for survival after retirement for many people, since most of us find it very difficult to save (be it for emergency, what more for retirement with rising prices of goods and services).
2. While you are still healthy and working, learn to plan your matrimony date, learn to save bit by bit and therefore, you don't have to borrow from banks. There's simply no short cut in this.
3. And above all, my mom used to say - Kalau gajah ber** besar, kancil pun nak ber** besar, nanti abislah bunt** koyak. Paham tak? Sendiri mau pikir lah bro.

I am glad that the editor publish my letter the very next day. But one thing bother me though. My 4th point was scrapped. I wrote that people who wish to get married should pay more attention and invest in themselves to prepare for life after marriage which demand commitment and of higher responsibility. What we see these days is people who're going to get married so busy preparing and thinking of The Big Day only and totally forget about preparing themselves psyhologically and spiritually for life after marriage. What a pity...

Jangan Kau Coba!

Eh aku tak fahamlah. Aku ingat kes Abby antara yg paling teruk aku pernah dengar dalam kes penganiayaan kepada seorang isteri yg sedang mengandung dan kemudian masih dalam pantang tapi harus menghadapi kerenah hamba Allah bernama suami. Rupa-rupanya ada seorang kawan aku di ofis yg kena lebih teruk dari tu. Masya Allah...ke mana menghilangnya spesis lelaki yg tak berapa soleh pun takpelah, at least adalah sikit sifat tanggungjawab kepada keluarga. Astaghfirullah...ke planet mana mereka?? Apsal la byk sgt kisah spesis lelaki ala2 Norman Hakim ni semakin membiak di luar kawalan?

Baru pagi tadi aku confirmkan dgn si tuan punye badan setelah aku "terdengar" satu kisah tak berapa sedap tapi telah disampaikan kepada aku. Ingatkan pompuan kaki gossip, mak aiii, lelaki lebih teruk lagik. Yg sampaikan cerita ni kat aku pon lelaki juga. Sebab aku rasa tak sedap, dan ingin membantu apa2 yg patut, aku beranikan diri utk confront kawan aku ni. Aku memang plan dari hari tu nak jumpa dia, tapi tak berkesempatan, tetiba je pagi ni dia muncul depan mata. Terus aku tarik dia masuk bilik gelap. Memang betul kata experts, antara manusia ni ada aura atau gelombang mikro yg kita sebenarnya tak nampak, tapi boleh travel antara kita. Bila kita memikirkan sesuatu mengenai seseorang, org itu akan dpt aura apa yg kita sdg fikirkan. Mcm ajaib pulak. That's what exactly happened to me this morning.

Dia mengaku benar, suami start having affair when she was at early stage pregnancy 3rd child. Throughout pregnancy, suami selalu takde rumah and nafkah tak beri. And the most cruel of all, suami telah memfailkan kes cerai di mahkamah the day she gave birth to the poor child. Apa punye manusia daa....agaknya bila seorang suami bercinta dgn pompuan lain, akal yg 9/10 Allah beri tu dah tinggal 0 tak? Macam betul jer teori aku ni...

Now, kawan aku dah go on with her life, rise up from all the pain and couldn't care less of what happen to the ex. The opposite is true for the hubby. Suami menderita. Bisnes lingkup. Hidup serabai. Inilah balasan Allah pada orang yg menganiaya orang lain.

Lesson learn : Jgn sesekali menganiaya seorang isteri, terutama masa dia tgh pregnant. Malaikat jaga ibu pregnant ni tau. Ha...kena lah padahnya kalau nak cuba.

Limau Anyone?

All these while, I've always confused of the three types of limau there are in this world as gourmet enricher. The confusion intensified when I had started to cook more often with the advent of the new wet kitchen.

I have always thought that there are only 2 types of limau:

1. Limau Kasturi/Nipis (the small one - interchangeably used both in cooking and in semantic)
2. Limau Purut (the big one)

As a result, when a recipe requires the use of limau nipis, I thought it's the small species. When my mom-in-law had mentioned a recipe which ingredient includes limau nipis, I paraphrased her description to limau purut, which she said "Bukan". This confusion really irritated me.

To put a halt to this unhealthy state of mind, I had performed a visual research at a hypermart. There are infact 3 types of limau. There are:

1. Limau Kasturi (the small one)
2. Limau Nipis (the big one - with smooth surface)
3. Limau Purut (the big one - with edgy surface)

See pictures below.

The bottom ones are Limau Nipis, the top right hand corner with very few quantities are Limau Purut, and the normal small species are Limau Kasturi.

A packet of Limau Kasturi was sold at RM3++. Same price for Limau Nipis. Only Limau Purut command higher price.

Going back to nature, this is how a grown up producing tree of Limau Kasturi looks like. Pix taken at Mr. X's kampung. Everytime we went back, I surely pack a plastic bag full of this limau, to be used as taste enhancer for BUDU.

Finally, puzzle solved!

Eusoff's Runny Nose

I realize that I have never written about my third child in my blog. There are so many interesting stories about Eusoff that I don't know which one to be the pioneer to be penned down. Alas, let me share the latest happening on Eusoff's medical expenses.

Eusoff has been suffering for "an allergy of the nose" for about 3 months. It appeared like a normal flu, but it's not. It's like sinus in the making. During this period, we would have been one of the most frequent flyer with Dr. Catherine Tham Sabapathy of the Puteri Specialist Hospital. The nurses could recognize him from far, what more Dr Tham. Antibiotics after antibiotics. Medicine after medicine. Costs after costs. Not claimable. The equivalent value of a decent sofa set from Fella Design I would say.

Finally, we brought Eusoff to see one "pakcik" in Paka, Terengganu on our way back to Kuala Terengganu (Eusoff's daddy hometown) last Aidiladha. The pakcik scanned him and informed us that Eusoff had seen "something" and that he had been "tersampuk" for more than 2 months. Bingo! The pakcik held Eusoff's head tightly and recited some doa. Eusoff cried out loud while trying to remove the old man's right hand. Then the pakcik held my poor baby's toes and again recited some more doa. He cried and shouted even louder while kicking the man's hand with his other leg. Quite surprising to see this tiny boy's determination to halt the cleansing effort of the old man. In the end, Eusoff stopped crying, wanted some milk and fell asleep soundly.

From that nite since, Eusoff has been sleeping soundly at nite and he no longer has runny nose. Alhamdullillah, he has been well since then. I pray that he would continuosly be in good health.

Conclusion : Never underestimate the power of alternative medicine (with permission from Allah of course).

Is it worth it?

Have we ever thought about why we go to work everyday? Besides the obvious - paycheck, what else? Possible reasons that I could think of:

1. As part of the society (in a rat race actually).
2. For the status (well, to be in employment means we are secured financially at least).
3. As an ibadah (to fulfil responsibility in providing for the family or supporting the family)

But which one and what exactly drives us to go to work every single day? To spend 1/3 of our life in the working place, it's really eating into our life span. Is it due to the challenges the work provide?

My quest in searching for the answer has brought me to myriad types of employees. But most worrying is when people go to work just because they need the money, nothing else. Yes, the money factor is important, but what is it beyond money? If money is the only factor, then it will lead to the problem that people couldn't care less about the company's health. And this is the very core of my problem - people are not interested to participate in programs to improve the company's bottom line. No doubt they want more bonus and benefits, but they simply couldn't care of doing what they're supposed to do to bring the company to greater height (I know, may sound a little bit annoying when I use such phrases!).

It's like telling a child, if you want that PS2 or that toy that you really have fancied for a long time, you must study hard and prove to me your results. But can we tell that to people who've been working for 5,10, 15,20, 30 years? Errr...sirs....madams.....if you wish to get more bonus or merits at the end of the year, and if you want your children and their children to see the company still exist, please do this and this and this...who likes it??

When people fail to see beyond the money factor, they will also jeopardize their connection with people and ultimately with God (hablumminallah wa hablumminannas). It will drag them further and further to that bottom pit of hell without them realizing. Then, who's responsibility is it to help them realize and slowly pull them up? Anyone close to them actually. You and me. No one else. Just make sure that we do not fall for the same trap. I believe that the effort we put in to save our friends or ourselves for that matter if we are one of them, is worth much much more than what deeds we can ever thought of. Is it worth it - more than you can imagine!

A Journey of Childhood

Last weekend, we went up to KL for my sister's housewarming. As all of you are aware, the Malaysian Mega Carnival Sales started on 29th Nov. 2008 and hence, I was thinking to say hello to some of the Midvalley's tenant windows to clean up my eyes and refresh my soul (you see, in JB the choices of shops are soooo limited!). Fortunately or unfortunately, depend on how you identify yourself (shopholic like me or stick-to-budget type), I saw this signboard:

There was an exhibition running at the Exhibition center on 3rd floor of the Mall. Thinking that such exhibition was a once in a blue moon type of event, I willingly (or not!) forgo my main objective of saying hi to all the wonderful shop tenants and instead, opted to check the exhibition out. Sacrifice - big time!

As part of social obligation, Dutch Lady had conducted this event to educate the public in such an interesting method. The exhibition was structured to look like a journey, with stations allocated for each milestone or learning. Before entering, we had to register ourselves and given a passbook (we could get a stamp at each station and get some incentives at the end of the journey). There were 6 stations altogether.

Station 1 - Writing

In Station 1, it aimed to educate parents that the skill of writing is a very difficult task for a child. Imagine the small hands are required to hold a big pen and a big book (considering the ratio of a child's hand to the pen & book compared to adult's). The test was for adults to try to write your name on this giant book using a giant pen. If you feel frustrated and write horribly, that's exactly what the feeling is for a child. Hence, don't expect your kid to write very well at the early stage. Instead, give encouragement for them to write persistently.

Station 2 - Eating

Eating maybe very easy for us, but not for kids. In Station 2, try to bring a spoon of food into this wooden mannequin's mouth from behind, without looking. The results - food spilled all over and tend to go to other body parts except the mouth. Hey, it's not easy to aim the spoon to tiny little mouth. Understand that.

Also in Station 2 - understand that furniture is huge animals for kids. It's not always easy to balance small self to climb up the bed, sofa, etc.

Station 3 - Walking

Try to walk on this tiny pole and balance yourself. That's why kids take some time to learn proper walking skills.

Station 4 - Drawing, Storytelling, Sorting, Playing

Always dish out a blank paper and ask your kids to use his/her imagination to draw. This is to encourage creativity. Use crayon for better results.

A "princess" was tasked to tell a story to the kids. She was full of emotions and really good at illustrating how a story should be told to kids. Husna's eyes were glued throughout the princess's story. I think it was about 2 monkeys and a treasure.

Sorting - Testing a child's creativity in sorting balls by color. Oh, Huda really loved this task.

Playing - another of Huda's forte'.

Memory Game comes to life. Try to recall the right cupboard where a toy was placed.

Music - never underestimate it's effects to a child.

Station 5 - Give all the freedom in the world

Playing with playdough is actually a way to give children the freedom to explore and create things or stories at their own whims and fancies. Just remember that it's for kids 3 years and above (Husna used to swallow some when she was 2!).

Give a chalk and provide a board to write. Let them draw or write whatever they want.

Station 6 - Understand where you are in the universe

The planets are kept in a dark room for better illumination effects. So cool...

Towards the end...

Simple task as taking your kids to playground is also an important step in child learning. Whatever they see and experience will help to grow their imagination and understanding of life.

Finally, the journey ended. Nutritionists were also invited to give talks and consultations in specified schedule.

After getting all the 6 stamps and with purchase of RM20 worth of Dutch Lady products, the kids were entitled to a graduation picture printed on the spot.

And that was my friends, the end of our 2.5 hours visit to the Midvalley Megamall. Asta la vista to my Metrojaya, Jusco, Aussino, Primavera, MPH, Bonia, Haagen Dasz, bla..bla..bla...

Tribute to Mr. X

Mr. X is away for a few days. He is going to see his client in East Malaysia in order to get to know them better. He's not going there alone, so I'd feel safe and secure :). For his safety, I mean.

Mr. X sandwiched by best friends at Mr. Lou Gerstner's HQ in NY (pix taken in 1994?)

Well Mr. X. I hope your visit will be a fruitful one. I'll sure do miss ya.

Laukku Cukup Masin

Taaaaaaaaaaaaadaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa...makanan yang paling enak ialah hasil masakan di dapur rumah sendiri. Apatah lagi masakan itu disediakan dengan penuh rasa cinta, kasih sayang, kasih mesra, zikir beserta dengan doa.

Walaupun nampak tak berapa menarik berbanding makanan di restoren, tapi aku pasti orang yang makan akan merasa jauh lebih puas dan dapat menikmati nikmat kenyang yang jauh lebih berbeza.

Hikmah dan barkah. AMIN.

Nak Kahwin ke Tak?

Kelakar lah kawan aku yg sorang ni. Tarikh kahwin dah nak dekat, dia jadik nervous pulak. She asked me to give 3 reasons why she should proceed with the marriage plan. Sebagai seorang yg berpengalaman berkahwin selama hampir 6 tahun, dan telah mengalami beberapa ujian berumahtangga, aku pun bagi lah 3 sebab yg aku rasa boleh meyakinkan dia untuk teruskan niat mendirikan masjid. Dalam Islam pon dah nyatakan byk sebab yg bagus2, tapi aku bagi dia 3 sebab yg berdasarkan perjalanan hidup aku sendiri.

3 sebab itu ialah:

1. Untuk dapat lebih byk pahala - setiap perbuatan yg menyenangkan hati suami, insya Allah akan dpt reward dari Allah. Hati pun senang. Kalau ditimpa ujian/kesusahan, anggaplah itu utk menguji keimanan. Suami hanya lah pengantara (medium for the test). This is my key to remain positive and motivated for my marriage.

2. As your companion - this should last till eternity, should he choose to remain loyal and good husband to you till the end. Again, there will be hilly adventures along the way, but at the end of the day, if all ends well, deep down in your heart you'll know that Allah created him to be your companion, the one to complete you (that's why I like Jerry Maguire - "You Complete Me").

3. It'll definitely expand you as an individual. There will be more challenges - emotional, physical, spiritual - with many parties - hubby, your own family, your in-laws, etc. You'll learn how to cope with all these challenges as time passes by. You will surely grow bigger as a person.

Aku rasa sebab2 di atas adalah sangat tinggi nilainya (korang nak kutuk, kutuklah :P). Aku pon tak sangka yg aku boleh bagi sebab2 yg sangat munasabah berdasarkan pengalaman hidup aku sendiri. Phuyoooo…Dan dengan sebab2 di atas, kawan aku yakin yg dia telah membuat keputusan yg selayaknya, Alhamdulillah…

Lagi satu kisah plak. Ada sorang kawan aku yg masih single mid 30’s, kesian dia. Hajat di hati nak kahwin, tapi hampir semua pompuan yg telah berkahwin nasihatkan dia tak payah la pening2kan kepala nak kahwin ni…buat nyusah jer, lelaki byk sgt yg hampeh sekarang..nak dapatkan yg criteria dia suka (alim, muka baik, memang baik – amat payah sekali…). So drpd kahwin dan pening, lebih baik tak kahwin dan tak pening..begitulah adanya cerita dia..keadaan yg amat menyedihkan..namun dia masih mencarik…dan mencarik…dan lagi..dan lagi…

Marriage indeed is a gamble. Nasib nasib beb. Untung sabut timbul, untung batu tenggelam. Dua-dua untung, tapi satu timbul, satu tenggelam. Terpulanglah pada kepimpinan nakhoda kapal dan anak kapal yg taat perintah dan supportive. Lanun pun dah semakin byk, nakhoda senang sangat nak hilang fokus. Tak payah nak ke Teluk Aden Somalia, kat ofis pon dah berlambak. Cuma kena pandai identify ler.

Apa-apa hal, go back to basics of Islam. Kenapa kita digalakkan berkahwin? Apa tujuan perkahwinan? Kenapa cerai itu perkara halal yg paling dibenci Allah? Kenapa Allah benarkan poligami walaupon ianya paling dibenci isteri (rasa mcm nak tikam jer kot, tak pon “potong” the enabler…heh…heh…). Semuanya ada sebab dan hikmah yg tersembunyi. Kadangkala tak tercapai akalmu…

Senang cerita, kalau ada lagik lepas ni orang bujang/anak dara tanya aku nak kahwin ke tak, aku kata “Go on”. Kahwinlah. Cuma aku nak bagi peringatan sikit. Ujian Allah yg paling hebat adalah ujian dalam bentuk kasih sayang, melalui insan yg kita paling sayang (dah berapa banyak entry blog aku cerita ceriti pasal mende ni lah…) . Memang teramat perit dan tak terperi sakitnya. Sakit yg org lain tak nampak. Dia kes makan dalam...Kalau kita boleh lepas ujian ni with flying colors (mcm Nabi Ibrahim sanggup korbankan Nasi Ismail), alamatnya ujian2 lain mcm kacang putih jer you…itu belum masuk lagik bab kekasih lama carik you semula…hai…lagik pening…camne nak jadik seorang isteri/suami yg setia selamanya…payah tu…kekasih gelap vs. kekasih terang dan halal…huhuhu…

Pendek cerita, kalau tak mahu dilambung ombak, jgn berumah di tepi pantai.

So, nak kahwin ke tak?

First Taste of Academic Success - Husna Eka

Husna Eka was born on 2 January 2004. By 3 years old, Husna went to an English reading program at a center called Vital Years - www.vitalyears.com.my. After spending a year there, she decided that she had enough of the class since majority of her friends were no longer there. It's your friends in class who determine your decision to stay on or not. Nevertheless, Husna could read simple English at the age of 3.

During the hiatus period of staying at home, she went crazy watching Cartoon Network, Nickelodeon and Disney Playhouse all day. The parents were then thinking heck, we need to fill up her time. After talking to a few fellow parents from the Vital Years class, most of them send their kids to Nuri to pursue the kid's education building program. Alas, we had found the nearest Nuri and decided to pursue hers at the center. Link - www.nuri.com.my

Husna started a month late from the rest, she's the 14th student in that J4 Pre-school class for 4 year olds. The teachers like her since she is easier to teach and listen well (yeah, after spending 1 year at Vital Years, that should be great foundation for her).

During the mid-year review, she fared very well, as per my post entitled "Pioneer Achievement - Husna Eka". Then last 2 weeks, it was time to take her results for that final year review.

Final year exam result for Husna - All A's except Jawi - C (she needs to write better huruf jawi). Little sis Huda looking on thinking when will it be my turn eh..

Then, Husna was awarded as the Best Student for J4 for Nuri branch of Taman Sri Putri.

Pix - Husna poses with her teacher - Teacher Aida.

We had to attend a ceremony for the award, but we were late. So we told Husna to get the award again for the upcoming years.
Pix - Husna poses with lil sis Huda.

Husna was exuberant with the award, which made her parents very proud.

Once in a while, before going to sleep, I'd tell Husna, "You're going to be the Best Student for next year, and the year after that, and the years beyond, until you become a doctor, then you can treat me when I'm old". How cool...but then again, this is just a bonus. We are not supposed to burden our kids with our hope and expectations. We give them the best, guide them, and ultimately, let them lead their own life. That's my belief.

Congratulations Husna!