It's Officially Over

And of His signs is this:
"He created for you mates from yourself that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He ordained between you love and mercy. Lo, therein indeed are portents for folk who reflect". (Quran 30:21)

"When the servant of Allah marries, he has fulfilled half the responsibilities laid on him by the faith; so let him be God conscious with respect to the other half". (Mishkat)

"'The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behavior; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives" (From Mishkat al-Masabih, No. 0278(R) Transmitted by Tirmidhi).

Abu Hurairah related that the Prophet Muhammad said:
“Men choose women for four reasons: for their money, for their rank, for their beauty and for their religion, but marry one who is religious and you will succeed” (Bukhari, Muslim).This of course, applies to women as well.

"Women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity " (Quran 24:26).

Lo and behold. Last month I wrote about this tragic case of a couple under the title "It's Almost Over". And yesterday, it's officially over. The knot was finally entangled.



Somehow this man is sooo good with words. Derita = Misery. Who's misery is it? Let's see what is going to happen to him soon. Not that I pray for his doomsdays, but verily for every deed that you do, you will get your reward. Same applies otherwise.

Like I said before, couples these days normally would focus more on preparation for the Big Day that they put on hold or totally forget to equip themselves phychologically and spiritually to undertake the journey of a matrimony. One very typical example - the so called "Wedding of the Year", this is a snippet (oh, by the way, this is just a tip of the iceberg created by the media for this celeb's Big Day):

And you think by attending the Marriage Course for 16 hours in 2 days is sufficient? Let me ask you what can you remember when you attending it last time (for you who've gone thru it)? For all future couples, I'd really like to propose for you to read more books on marriage in Islam, its concept, qualities of a good husband/wife, doa-doa, etc. Examples of books are a lot in the market, like the best seller "Cakar Harimau" written by Ustazah Nor Baayah. A very good buy. Hey, tax claimable also.

Besides educating oneself on its preparation, also learn about how to manage it while you are in it, and also if you want to be out of it. Then only it is complete. Pre - during - post. Here are some instances of issues faced when the covenant reached a dead end:

Nafkah - If you divorce your wife, you not only have to pay for her expenses (nafkah) during edah (3 months solace period), but you have to pay for your kids' expenses until they can sustain themselves (when they start working). You can run, but you can't hide. Smart wives will chase you even if you squeeze yourself into the worm's pit hole.

Harta Sepencarian (Co-owned Assets) - whatever accumulated by the husband after marriage, are automatically co-owned by the wife. But whatever accumulated by the wife after marriage, the husband has to prove that he has the right to co-own the same. If you kill your wife, chances are you will find it a very grueling and ardous attempt to claim her assets.

Well, there are indeed so many lessons to learn in this covenant called "marriage". Allah has prescribed a complete guide for couples to flourish and be successful in it, it is a matter of how every single one of us wants to search for it and benefit from it.

"Sesungguhnya ada perbezaan antara orang yang berilmu dengan yang lain-lain. Allah akan mempertingkatkan orang berilmu dengan beberapa tingkatan darjat...".