The Mindboggling Solution to Pelajar Hamil & Kahwin Bawah Umur

Menteri Besar Melaka Datuk Ali Rustam nak wujudkan sekolah khas untuk pelajar-pelajar perempuan yang hamil dan jugak benarkan budak sekolah kahwin supaya dapat anak yg halal, instead of yg haram. Berpinau jugak ye fikiran kita nak absorb mende nih. I don't know about you, but for me this is a disaster.

 

Sekolah utk pelajar hamil - kok malu tak kalau ko masuk sekolah tu? Sekolah ni dalam hutan ke, kat tgh bandar ke, kat dalam Zoo Melaka ke, Datuk nak letak mana lokasinya? Parents pulak, nak hantar sekolah tu? Ke ramai yg dah tak mengaku anak bila such case were to happen? Pening kepala aku memikirkan details of this suggestion. It is so mindboggling to think about its short term and long term implications. Alasan Datuk, supaya anak2 halal ni boleh dijadikan anak angkat yg lebih bagus, sebab dia halal. Sedangkan yg haram pon org berebut, apa lagik anak halal kan. Then the mothers can kahwin after that and continue their schooling. Kok boleh belajar lagik ke ko?

 

Kahwin bawah umur - Datuk kata kalau tahu bab kahwin sebab nak halalkan s**, sure org tu tahu pasal tanggungjawab. Aisey Datuk, apsal lah cakap pasal the "T" word tuh???? In the first place, kalau dah terjebak kat situ, membuahkan benih, dah sah2 ler bebudak tu tak pernah terpikir about tanggungjawab. Sedangkan berapa ramai kes org dewasa yg dah kahwin tapi lupa atau tak tahu langsung apa tanggungjawab mereka sebagai seorang suami atau isteri, inikan pulak budak hingusan....boleh nampak hingus masih meleleh takde org nak tulun kesat Datuk.

 

Idea aku senang je. Datuk ada cakap pasal mengembalikan mereka ke ajaran agama, why not negeri Melaka amalkan sistem UNDANG2 & SYARIAH ISLAM mcm kat Arab Saudi? Sebat 100 kali. Buat kat Jom Heboh ke, sure lepas ni takde lagik kes. Abis cerita Datuk. End of story. Taklah berpinau kepala aku fikirkan idea solution Datuk, and buang duit rakyat nak tanggung bebudak ni.....poning den....

MDP-31 in Memory

Management Development Program - batch 31, PERMATA, Bangi, Selangor, 15 - 30 July 2010.

Original intention - to build knowledge and capabilities of leaders in Petronas group of companies and enhance network among the participants.

Key take aways - lots of drama in class, at the dinner table, in the karaoke room, at the tennis court, in the gym, at the lobby while hanging outs and of course, one nite out to enjoy sate Samuri. That's the best for me.

Macam-macam cerita kelakar lah....ada orang bet among them aku ni dah kahwin ke belum, ada orang siap siasat sama ada aku dah kahwin, sebab dia nak bukak cawangan ketiga from Malaysia sebab 1st one is Sudanese, 2nd one is Yemeni and third dia nak carik Malaysian. Memang lawak betul lah. This is the kind of craziness you would get when you put a bunch of 30 and 40 somethings in class for 2 weeks and expect them to study. Minds can go crazy if they are not deviated at this age.

I got to know more about the Petronas businesses in the group. I got to meet a bunch of good people and I think I can strike quite good chemistry with a few people. Good chemistry can be dangerous, but as long as you can contain it, no problemo. Kita pegi makan n karaoke kat bilik khas PERMATA tu ramai2 dah kira oklah tuh...Just imagine, we were separated from our families for days....of course some kind of close relationship building is inevitable. It's purely on professional basis afterall.

The moment I got back, one of the bosses asked me, "Tell me there's something new you learned from that course". Well, it's more like a refresher I said. But I like the chance to build network with other staff from Petronas. That's a rare chance for me since being stuck at this new department, with all those daily issues, a very very fat chance that I often get to go to such "away-from-office" kind of enjoyment.

I got to play tennis and ride bicycle..yayyyy...it has been ages.....PERMATA for me is a perfect place for attending course. The facilities are superb - the network, the gym, the sports complex, the karaoke room (oh...aku dapat nyanyi lagu Gerimis Mengundang...best nyer...) the computer facility and the food - so much variety....sometimes had masakan kampung, masakan india - naan and tandoori, sometimes had spaghetti, had also yong tau foo type like Johny's style, had the Chinese type dinner, mcm2 lah...and the final night, they served barbecue. That was simply great. Agaknya sebab kalau kat company aku sekarang, jgn harap nak dapat such lavishness....if according to Petronas staff, they all dah muak beb. Tapi memandangkan aku adalah gadis kampung dari Pasir Gudang, jarang dapat makanan mewah, aku rasa food tu semua sangat special. Well, bila dah biasa, rasa biasa lah. Bila tak biasa, kita rasa lah macam LUAR BIASA....kesian aku dan kawan2 aku kat Pasir Gudang tu....

Tapi yg tak bestnyer, ada group project work. Ni tak siap lagi, nak kena hantar in 6 weeks time. Lepas tu ada presentation la pulak in January....cabarang sungguh....

Bila Tujuan Tidak Jelas..

Satu hari di KLIA, seketika aku turun dari escalator selepas pemeriksaan keselamatan, aku berdiri di belakang seorang wanita, in her 20's. Pakai tudung ala scarf, yg agak pendek. Then rambut dia kat belakang terkeluar sikit.

Aku (dgn niat baik amal makruf nahi mungkar): Kak, rambut terkeluar dari tudung.

Cik Adik (sambil menjeling dengus kepada ku): Rambut saya memang panjang.

Aku (dgn rasa amat pelik) : Nak pakai tudung ke tak nak?

Cik Adik - cuba membetul-betulkan tudung pendeknya itu sambil menguis-nguis rambut yg terkeluar.

Apa punye pelik daaaa....kalau nak pakai, buat lah pakai betul2. Kalau rasa belum bersedia, hah apa lagik...bukak je la....buat confuse org bukan Islam jer kome ni laaaa....ini mesti kes terikut jugak si Idola ala ala Diva yg nak kena serang tuh....CTKD...mcm2 hal la diorang ni bila dah kaya dan ternama....

So moral of the story, wear it nicely when you are really ready. Tengok mcm kawan aku si Yatie tu, steady je free hair. Nanti satu hari aku doakan dia dapat hidayah dari Allah, insya Allah hajat dia akan termakbul. Mende ni tak boleh paksa beb.....

12 Years and Still....

Today is the day that marks my 12th year of serving my company. Last 2 years, I receive quite a few memorabilia and well wishes from friends for the Jubilee of 10 years. I can't really recall for the 11th year, I think it was only a few emails of good wishes as well.

But this year, it is quite special I guess. I am stuck here in Bangi for 2 weeks, attending a course which is supposed to enhance my management skills. It is also nice, since workload in the office has been really crazy. Escape as you may call it, it is heaven for me as of today. Sometimes we need that variety in life. Routine kills.

Just now at the Ice Breaking, my partner told the class that my favorite food is Keropok Lekor. Straight away the trainer said, "You must not be a Ganu person, coz Ganu people take that food as staples!". Betullah tu. That's why I am married to a Ganu man.

This morning at the new Senai Airport, I tried the kuey tiaw goreng with telur mata at their cafe right before that departure gate, coz I was really starving. It looked good from the glass. I was eating half way, then only I realized that it was "plainly tasteless". So I went to the counter girl, asking for salt or some sauce. She said,"Takdelah Kak". That's it. RM7 quality of an airport food. They say never complaint about airport's food. True enough.

Have you heard a story about a golf course which have caddies that wear no bra? Gosh...the men would be very excited...imagine after 2-3 rounds of hitting the ball, when the caddies start to sweat....huhu....but it was a joke. The caddies are indeed men, that's why no bra. That's a new joke I heard at the dinner table tonight.

This Sunday insya Allah I will be meeting with Yatie Pitt and Nikki Taylor. I last met them in year 2002, I think. Wow, how time really has passed. Suddenly we are these Gen-X people trapped in the craziness of fulfilling needs of this modern life, busy with kids and career, but one thing for sure, I want to ask Yatie how's life now by still being single. Or she has somebody but she's not telling. Biological clock is ticking, better hurry.

You know this book of Dale Carnegie, I am like obsess with the lessons which I need to apply. Actually I have to record down how I apply those lessons to my daily working. It has turned into obssession. Even though it's good, I hate it. Well, I need to provide update to HR again in December. So better start to record it down.

ESQ Training Must Go On

Aku agak terkesima di saat aku menerima email forward dari seorang rakan (yg belum lagi attend ESQ) yg mengatakan ESQ adalah HARAM. Kenyataan dari Mufti Wilayah Persekutuan yg telah diwartakan, amat memeranjatkan.

 

Terus aku mem"forward" email tersebut pada alumni ESQ yg aku kira sangat bersyukur kerana mereka telah terpilih untuk menghadiri kursus tersebut dan mendapat manfaat yg tiada tolok bandingnya. Mereka semua seperti tidak percaya. Kami semua merasakan tidak ada langsung akidah kami yg terjejas setakat ini. Malah ia berjaya mendekatkan kami dgn Sang Maha Pencipta. Seperti yg aku biasa tulis dalam entry2 tahun 2008, aku byk mengingati pelajaran dan peringatan dalam syllabus ESQ untuk aku mencari kekuatan di saat aku diuji dgn hebat oleh Sang Maha Mengasihani.

 

Alkisah rupanya Mufti Wilayah belum pernah pun menghadiri kursus ESQ. ESQ mempunyai 5 orang panel syariah yg amat berpengalaman dalam hal ehwal agama dan ramai cendiakawan dan ahli agama telah menyertai program ESQ dan semuanya menghargai dan meluluskan program tersebut. Termasuklah pihak JAKIM juga.

 

Perkara ini memang pelik. Aku ada terdengar ada ramai non-muslim yg telah mendapat hidayah dan petunjuk dari Yang Maha Pemberi Jalan dgn menghadiri kursus ESQ. Jadi persoalannya, kenapa perkara yang baik ini telah diharamkan?

 

Bukan senang untuk mendapat Hidayah dari Allah. Salah satu cara yg memudahkan ialah melalui ESQ training ini. Pelajarannya amat aku ingat, di saat aku menghadirinya pada bulan Mei 2007 di Persada Johor, akulah salah seorang ALUMNI JB Angakatan 1, sampailah sekarang, no course can reach right through your heart and connect you with the Ultimate Force, other than this one special course.

 

Entahlah. Agaknya ini satu ujian buat pihak pengurusan ESQ dan Dr. Ary khususnya. Perjuangan biasanya akan ada halangan. Seperti kisah para rasul2 dan nabi2 kita, semuanya mengharungi rintangan yg amat mencabar. But triumph will prevail at the end. Barulah namanya perjuangan.

 

Salam Perjuangan 165!!!!!

Conclusion of Part 1 of DC's Book - 6 Ways to Make People Like You

I have to compress the learning since time has been very much limited these days. Nevertheless, I did finish reading the whole of Chapter 1 twice, and underlining the important notes. It's a matter of applying those lessons. In summary, the 6 ways to make people like you are:

1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
2. Smile.
3. Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person's interest.
6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

Come to think about it, all are indeed common sense. But knowingly as we are creatures being slaved by our own ego, the above can be quite challenging.

 

I chaired a department meeting this morning and asked who had read Stephen Covey's 7 Habits, none had ever heard. Reading huh, only 2% of Malaysians do it. What do you expect....how can we become "Negara Berpendapatan Tinggi" when our people are not interested to read and explore. Najib should spend more time in remote areas of Terengganu, Kelantan and Masai, then only he knows what should be the priority.

 

Come back to the DC's book, here are some of the important notes:

Be a good listener:

1. When we listen to people, it implies that the person is important. That's exactly what human beings are craving - the sense of being important.
2. Many people fail to make a favorable impression because they don't listen attentively.
3. People who talk only of themselves think only of themselves.
4. To be interesting, be interested.

Talk in terms of the other person's interest:

1. Focus on what can catch the other person's enthusiasm.
2. Talk about an enlargement of his life.

Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.

1. The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.
2. Human beings crave for appreciation as much as they crave for food.

I have to learn to say more "Thank You", and show that "You mean a lot to me". Everybody around us is as important as our family member, even if they are just the cleaners in the office, the security guard at the gate, the cashier at the counter, the officer at the bank, the attendant at the petrol kiosk, and all those people....I just have to learn to be more friendly.

Can Men Really Do Cross Stitch?

That was a bummer. Last 2 days Mr.X and I went to the Read Malaysia Fair at the Mines and suddenly he grabbed that book - Top 100 Cross Stitch Motifs. Yeah, like when on earth are you goin' to find the time to do it? Like when it's school holidays and all our children are in KL while we are stuck at work? So now Mr.X only has 4 days to learn and do 1. That's the challenge.

First, it's the book. Then had to find the shop. Luckily we found one at Tun Aminah just now. Then it's the review of numerous You Tubes on How to Start Cross Stitch. In English, Vietnamese and Chinese. It's the demo that counts. Man...it's time to just do it!

I never knew that he would settle for this kind of interest. It's in the gene, perhaps. Definitely not for me. Simply not me.