Where is the love, the love, the love? (Part II)

So the basic question is why husbands and wives need to "re-brand" their relationship all the time. I would love if any body out there can share with me some tips on how to re-energize and make the relationship more exciting. Your views are most welcome folks...and please be specific.

I did get some feedback like doing some hobbies together, go to a concert once in a while, just the two of you, but I need more ideas...of course I read some books as well. Currently I'm reading a book by Dr Tuah Iskandar on Membina Hati Bahagia - motivasi untuk wanita. It is such a great book to gain back some spirit and motivation that you thought was lost when something hit you.

Going back to the song "I live my life for you" by Firehouse, I think that we can never place someone so important such that your whole life is dependent on or dedicated to this person. Be it your mother, your father, your child, your husband/wife, etc. That's why Allah says, "only love me as only I am eternal". The rest are just on loan to you. Allah will take back anytime He wishes. Let say you love your wife/husband so much. One day Allah will test you by either taking away his/her life or taking away his/her love from you. That's why sometimes we can see that a mother would faint or cry and cry endlessly when her child is dead. Worst still, there's a true case of a wife in Kedah who killed her two children as a retaliation against her husband who wanted to marry another woman. So where is the love for Allah for these people? Allah gives a clear warning to all muslims on love and its condition, that we must place Him above any other beings on this earth. Once we lose this, we are bound to lose it all.

Of course, it is easier said than done. This realization to place Allah above all your love for individuals and things on this earth would not come easy until you are tested by Allah. Whatever that test is, be it - you contract a disease, you have an accident, someone you love dies, or suddenly you feel that you are married to a wrong partner. Ahah..this is tricky. I got to watch Dr Fadzilah Kamsah's program on Astro Oasis 2 nites ago, where he said " Allah tentukan jodoh untuk kita bermakna itulah pasangan yang terbaik untuk kita. Bila Allah tentukan jodoh itu, tidak ada ketetapan waktu e.g. jodoh kau ni 5 tahun jer." It is how you make the best out of it that's the most important. So it is really up to us how to manage our lives, and how do we best place the love that we have - priority to Allah or to any other beings on this planet.