Air Mata Kasih (part II)

After I submitted the tax form last nite, I tried to search for a video on youtube as suggested by a friend. I was supposed to search for a video featuring Abby Abadi on the program Anjakan Paradigma hosted by YB Dato' Dr. Fadzilah Kamsah. It was beneficial, relevant and helpful, as told by the person. Unfortunately, after scouring for many minutes, I stumbled through a bunch of other videos which were as interesting and more fruitful from the 2 personalities.

Among others, a program called Bersama Dato' (hosted by Dato' Fadzilah Kamsah) with special focus on Kenapa Wanita Menangis (Why Women's Tears are Dead Cheap?). There were many useful information in it based on his own research and by research of many other subject matter experts. I very much like the introduction in which he differentiated the categories of tears - the quality ones vs. the cheapo ones. The highest quality of tears are meant for:

1. Bila seseorang bertaubat dengan bersungguh2, mengenang akan dosa2nya yg lalu.
2. Bila berdoa, bermunajat dgn bersungguh2 dan ingin sangat mencapai hajat yg suci.
3. Bila mengenang kisah2 para nabi2 dan rasul2, betapa peritnya perjuangan dan pengorbanan yg mereka terpaksa lalui, compared to whatever that we have faced to date.
4. Bila terasa sangat2 bersyukur atas segala nikmat yg Allah telah beri selama ini.
5. Bila mengenang dan menghargai ciptaan dan kebesaran Allah.

For tears with reasons other than stated above, you can consider them of low quality, may even be unnecessary. We can look at it as temporary measure to relief the discontentment or frustration inside, but in no way it will alleviate the pain. It's also interesting when he put it in perspectives of both the person who cry and the person who was forced to listen to the cry. When you have the time at nite, you may want to take a look at this. As usual, better viewing of videos at nite.

Remember that I was supposed to find clips of Abby and Dato'? Unfortunately, I think the featured program has not been downloaded into youtube yet. Nonetheless, Abby's series of unfortunate events has stirred the world and hence, videos on her, the j*** and the 3rd party were a lot! Had a glimpse on some of the videos, with a few noteworthy reminder:

1. 1 so-called motivational speaker concluded that it was a case of COMMUNICATION breakdown between husband and wife. Just what is the heck communication?? If only one party is interested to talk and collect the pieces and try very hard to re-build them while the other party on the other hand is ruining everything, what can we expect?
2. Abby did say that she pursued the course for separation since she thought that it's time she thinks about herself, after all the while busy thinking of others. And for that, I truly supported her action. It's like inborn in a married woman that once she got married, she will think of other people and other things, except for herself. Suami dah makan ke, anak sihat ke, mak kat rumah ok ke, rumah kita bersih tak, baju dah gosok ke belum, weekend ni nak buat apa, duit simpanan untuk masa depan cukup ke, bla bla bla. At the end of the day, we look miserable and again, if the marriage fails, the first finger would point to the wife. Penatlah weh....

Today I read in a newspaper about how Ikhwan leads his marriage with Wardina (Ikhwan is Mr. X's schoolmate back in Taiping). Apparently they both come from very different worlds, and that's the very basic fabric which knit them together. I like when he said, "Bila kita bergaduh, saya cepat2 ingatkan diri saya, kenapa kita berkahwin? Kita berkahwin kerana mencari keredhaan Allah". A point very well said, Ikhwan. Unfortunately not many people share the same thoughts and perspective, even though that is, in my humblest opinion, the only savior to a marriage.