I had the chance of exchanging views with a few good men yesterday. These are no ordinary men. They are the bunch of blokes carrying the heaviest responsibility to deliver to our customers, and sometimes forget to live their own life. A sacrifice that may not be worth or worth it, depend on which camp you want to take. They are the most pressured and the least expected group of people whom I would ponder to share stories of their life at that lunch table. They are known as Project Managers (PM).
The topic was on why would married men would want to have girlfriends? Hohoho...a very interesting subject. It arose when 1 PM declared that he was a subject to a hot scandal in the biggest deepwater project in our yard at the moment. The girl who happened to be a low level administrative staff publicized that she had slept with the PM. And not just him, but plus 5 other big guns in that project, in sequence. Wow, that is something. The PM denied, telling others that it's the norm for girls at that level to fantasize on things. Maybe true. She got sacked for indecent clothing etiquette (was informed that it was sexier than than the umbrella girls at F1). If it's one man, she may be smart. But 6 men? Mutated brain cells, exposed through the clothing.
But that was not the highlight. The subject got heated when it came to the very core of the topic. Would you cheat on your spouse when he/she is not looking? Another PM shared. Yup, he has girlfriends, 2-3 of them. Got "kantol" by the wife once, but he also denied it. Had asked for permission to open another branch, but lost in the argument when the wife highlighted "Have you done your responsibility well enough in educating the kids?". He couldn't answer that. Therefore now, the 2-3 remain as girlfriends for fun. Non committal relationship, which the wife need not worry. That's what he said. Yeah right.
The most unexpected of all, all the men claim that their wives are the most wonderful creatures on earth. Even though they may have girlfriends, escort friends, staff turned server, etc, their wives at home will always remain the queen of the heart. These are a few anecdotal evidence cited:
My wife had even prepared time table for me at home, I have to oblige ( yup, she's a teacher). I hate it but hey, it is good for me at home. I sponsored everything the family needs, so her money is totally for her to spend on her own (how I wish for the same!). That's why she can afford to drive an expensive car, better than mine. I increase her allowance for every child she delivered.
Wow, this guy belongs to a very rare species of men in Malaysia. If any women out there were to find out about this guy, he will be grabbed in no time.
My wife always checked on me after THAT incident ("kantol"). But I always tell her, she's the best. She went to bank to do ASB loan, and the officer was surprise to see how much money she has. They ask what is she working as. She said she's just a housewife. But with a damn fat allowance.
Another wow, so lucky in finance department, but I guess not so lucky in loyalty program department.
So, would you cheat on your spouse? I like this rhyme, something kids pick up from the ESQ training for kids:
Allah is always looking
Allah is always there
Allah is always watching
Allah is always fair.
Do what you want. The world is round and what goes around comes around. Paid back CASH in this life or later, and worst, in both worlds. Just remember that.
2 comments:
Hei Lyn,
Interesting reading your 'articles'. You certainly have a flair in writing.
Do you know what the time is? Huh... and you people out there think being a housewife is like a housefly... duh. Just flying around goyang kaki... think again. I am an F1 driver, a 1st class swearer and i definitely can multi task. I eat, drink, listen to my mp3, talk, sing (terribly I'm afraid), swear and scream at my kids all at the same time. Hey you men out there? Can you do that? Yes, you say. LIAR. You guys are made (by Allah) not to multitask. You even have to stop talking to peek at someone's tiny cleavage. Read Richard and Barbara Pease books. Well, actually these things have already been mentioned in Quran and told lengthly in all the kitabs and underlined in all the 'rules' and guides of syariah.
Anyway, since leaving MMHE I'm pretty much behind in technology. The only time I have with the computer is to check my mail and chat with you. No time to browse around. Had plenty of that when I was there.. you know where you are right now.
Maybe I should start my own blog... nuh.. I can't even get a month filled in my diary. The diary usually get sold off as 'suratkhabar lama' though they're untouched (opened?).
It is sooo much more rewarding spending time and breaking your back for your kids. They say thank you all the time in so many ways.
Back then when I was working at that place.. you know - where you are right now.. thank you was a script drilled into your head thru teambuilding and some overcharged courses. I am so blessed to have that choice - to be with my kids.
A note of caution - make sure and ensure again and again that your maid is healthy. Any sign of sickness, send them to the doctors. My maid was sent home - suspected TB. And my sister is now suffering from Hepatitis - contracted from her maid. Be very strict about keeping themselves clean. No long fingernails. Hand washing must be a culture and cleanliness is something that must be taught with practical. Their threshold of 'clean' is soooo low.
And 1 more thing - don't ever forget to reward yourself and have your own space. Must keep myself sane! Nightie night.
P/S. I am the queen to my kids and they are all my angels. The Power is in the your(mother's) hands...
Hmm... just to add. Y do you think that there are more female grads, female leaders, female everywhere!? Don't have the answer? We the 'weaker' species still think using the same head. Getting more level headed as each generation goes by. We are born to multi task using the capacity of the same head - rather focused don't you think?
Anyway, dalin, don't worry too much. After redha comes tawakal. Que sera sera! Retribution is just around the corner sneaking and ever ready to pounce on those who hurt you bad.
Forget bout those crane issues at you know - where you're working now... It will be there forever and even if it is solved they will make sure they are not solved. How else can they ensure that you will come running back to them..
Mmmmm... ever thought of seeking help from the Singapore zoo!?! :-)
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