Of Caring, Smart and Visionary

I can't resist but to touch on this topic.

"'The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behavior; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives" (Hadith Riwayat AtTarmizi).

With reference to my previous 2 entries on the related topic:
http://noraidalin.blogspot.com/2008/11/its-almost-over.html
http://noraidalin.blogspot.com/2008/12/its-officially-over.html

Yesterday, the infamous Memey was a guest on Wanita Hari Ini (I didn't catch this since it was aired during office hours, and NOT that I wanted to see her face!). This morning however, somehow I accidentally tuned to Hot FM channel on my way to work where Fafau and Faizal were discussing on Memey's appearance as a guest on WHI and they were inviting comments from listeners as their Hot Chat topic of the day. What a bomb explosion I would guess. I'm pretty much confident that their line will be jammed of people wanting to have a say on this "oh-i-am-a-casualty-of-the-public's-prejudice". Here is a snapshot of what transpired in WHI (they have it recorded and played back in Hot FM):

Question: Kenapa dalam ramai-ramai kawan artis Memey memilih Norman sebagai kawan baik sedangkan Memey tahu status dia?

Answer: Norman seorang yang prihatin, bukan kepada saya saja, malah kepada semua rakan artis. Norman juga seorang yang bijak, mempunyai visi dan misi. Saya suka berbual-bual dengan dia. Dia banyak mengajar saya erti kehidupan.

Voila! This gullible innocuous 20-year old finally had declared to the world of how she feels towards the impassive jerk, inadvertantly revealing her naivety to the crux.

Hello, dear. All married men are well known to be more "caring" to people, especially to single opposites. This is a known fact. They learn the art and science of "caring" by going through "hell" with their wives. Those who seemed to be cold during single days tend to be more friendly after they get married. Those who are already hot during single days will be burnt after they get married. They got brainwashed, cleaned, twisted and dried by their wives. You can't afford to be naive here, or risk becoming a victim of false devotion/affection/passion/fondness and all those related words to L.O.V.E.

Smart and visionary? Look at his marriage history. Isn't that sufficient to tell you what kind of casanova you are attracting to? A good husband is the one who is good to the wife. Refer to the hadith on top. Smart husbands won't cheat, especially when their wives are expecting. Smart husbands will know that expectant mothers are more sensitive, and tend to do things which are beyond imagination. Smart husbands develop vision for the family. That is fundamental. Where the family is going totally lies in his hand. He is the captain of the ship. He can't blame anyone else if the marriage fails. Especially not by saying "Oh, ini sudah suratan kehidupan". Usaha dulu bang, lepas tu baru berdoa dan berserah.

Kesianlah minah ni. Nak selamatkan ke tak, pun dilemma juga. Kahwin nanti ko rasalah, apa itu makna prihatin, bijak, misi dan visi. Tapi yang pasti, semua perempuan yang berkahwin memang sangat membenci species pompuan macam ni.